How to change unhealthy limiting patterns and live from your Essence.

 

          “I get into the same prob­lem over and over again.“ Yes, let’s face it! By avoid­ing con­fronting our strug­gles we keep our­selves exact­ly in the sh…

My friend Ines is a won­der­ful woman and a great natur­opath. She does aston­ish­ing things: Ines ana­lyzes her clients‘ stools. To some, this might sound a bit unusu­al or even repel­lent. Yet the poop does give her valu­able infor­ma­tion about the client’s health chal­lenges.

I also like look­ing at shit pro­fes­sion­al­ly — in a psy­cho-spir­i­tu­al sense. “I get into the same prob­lem over and over again”: When you hear your­self say­ing this, or when you just observe it aris­ing in your mind, it tells you one thing for sure: It is time to look at your shit!

The “wrong part­ner“

Let’s face it: “I always end up dat­ing a part­ner who cheats on me“- “My rela­tion­ship feels stale and bor­ing, and noth­ing seems to change“- “I hate my body, but I am used to it“ -“I will nev­er have a hap­py rela­tion­ship“-“I keep eat­ing com­pul­sive­ly, yet that’s just how I am“- “My pan­ic attacks are tor­tur­ing me, but what can I do?“- “Yes, my boss is aggres­sive and my gas­tri­tis is annoy­ing“ – “Yes, I would love to work in a cre­ative field – but I can’t get myself mov­ing to get there“.

These are some exam­ples of what I have heard from peo­ple before they start­ed look­ing at their prob­lems – with the inten­tion of chang­ing things and cre­at­ing ful­fill­ing alter­na­tives. It is unbe­liev­able how long human beings some­times stay in painful sit­u­a­tions.

Why would it make sense to look at the not so ‘sweet ‑smelling‘ parts of our exis­tence?

Yes – some things in life can­not be changed, and this may need a true and some­times hard griev­ing process. But many times we refrain from dis­solv­ing our prob­lems sim­ply because we lack trust in our­selves or oth­ers. Or we fol­low neg­a­tive beliefs, which lim­it us. “I do not deserve“… is one of these self-sab­o­tag­ing thoughts.

Self-Doubts and Self-Judg­ments

I am not good enough“…. is anoth­er one. At the same time, stud­ies show the huge cop­ing poten­tial human beings pos­sess. It is ALWAYS worth giv­ing it a try – some­times with the help of a friend or a pro­fes­sion­al coun­sel­lor.

Food for Thought

  • What are your “I always end up“ … thoughts?
  • What dif­fi­cul­ties are you avoid­ing  look­ing at, in order to find relief and solu­tions?
  • What is the sweet secret dream in your heart, which you tend to ignore or post­pone? What do you long for in your life?

I would be hap­py to hear about your dream –"> send me a note. What if your life is offer­ing you more pos­si­bil­i­ties than you think?

If you are inter­est­ed, you can also find some quick infor­ma­tion about poop analy­sis here. Enjoy your explo­ration!

 

 

Nina Koren is a train­er,
coun­sel­lor and author
in the field of trans­for­ma­tion.
She pro­vides in-depth
guid­ance for indi­vid­u­als,
teams and lead­ers.

© Nina Koren 2019

 

We all long for true affection. Touch-based approaches can foster connection and deeply nourish body and soul.

          Talk­ing is a nice thing, yet when you feel pain or grief,  are anx­ious, exhaust­ed or lone­ly,  it doesn’t always help. We want to feel safe­ly con­nect­ed on a much deep­er lev­el. Some­times a kind, silent touch heals places that words would nev­er reach.

This is an essen­tial and cher­ished part of my work: Con­nect­ing beyond words — with what can’t be said; gen­tly and with com­pas­sion;  cre­at­ing space for the ten­der feel­ings – so they can stay silent for as long as they need to, yet with a kind com­pan­ion at their side. A client once described her expe­ri­ence of this kind of touch as “nec­tar for my body, and nec­tar for my soul – pure nour­ish­ment“.  Oth­ers feel as if “bathed in warm water and ener­gy“ Often­times inner blocked places open up and start to flow again, or a state of light­ness calm­ly expands inside us as we recon­nect to our deep­er Selves.

Anx­ious or avoidant attach­ment

There is a grow­ing body of research exam­in­ing the dif­fer­ent heal­ing fac­tors involved in touch and touch-based ther­a­peu­tic approach­es. 

The “Deep Touch — Con­nect­ing beyond words” approach, which I apply in my work, is one of them. Also Bren­nan Heal­ing Sci­ence, anoth­er modal­i­ty I like to use to bal­ance bio-fields, involves touch. With­out ever being touched, babies can­not grow up health­ily. Through­out the mil­len­nia, human­i­ty has been using touch for heal­ing. Yet ulti­mate­ly the ques­tion is: What touch­es us inside? I believe that there needs to be some­thing ‘in‘ the touch: love, attune­ment, the invis­i­ble aspects of our­selves. When we suf­fer from anx­ious or avoidant attach­ment, we long for this feel­ing of safe  con­nec­tion to and from our inner self. The East­ern tra­di­tions in par­tic­u­lar, devel­oped com­plex sys­tems to describe our human body not only as a mate­r­i­al object, but also as a feel­ing organ­ism with a spir­i­tu­al dimen­sion. West­ern Somat­ic Psy­chol­o­gy devel­oped a vari­ety of approach­es to include the felt sense, our embod­ied expe­ri­ence of our­selves, into ther­a­peu­tic process­es.

Meet­ing as who we are

Every­day life in our mod­ern soci­ety often seems mechan­i­cal and we are reduced to per­form­ing and func­tion­ing. Yet in our own cells and souls we know of our nat­ur­al long­ing for expe­ri­ences which real­ly touch us inside. Real moments of meet­ing feel nour­ish­ing, often­times they cre­ate space for old pain to heal.

Touch is also a gift for the one who is giv­ing it.  We need to be deeply con­nect­ed to our­selves to meet the oth­er per­son at this depth of con­nec­tion. Yet when this joy of con­nec­tion is accessed, we can real­ly get a glimpse of par­adise – and this can be sim­ply between friends or, if you would like to explore this sub­ject more deeply, in a ther­a­peu­tic heal­ing ses­sion.

I’d be hap­py to offer you these moments of meet­ing for the ten­der places in you which long for hold­ing, care, sup­port and inte­gra­tion.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

How about attend­ing or host­ing an intro-work­shop in Bren­nan Heal­ing Sci­ence? You can check out train­ing pos­si­bil­i­ties here.

 

 

Nina Koren is a train­er,
coun­sel­lor and author
in the field of trans­for­ma­tion.
She pro­vides in-depth
guid­ance for indi­vid­u­als,
teams and lead­ers.

© Nina Koren 2019

 

How to unblock your life force and flourish naturally.

 

          Do you know those days? We feel down, stuck or stressed, our backs or mus­cles are aching, the stom­ach is tight, our ener­gy is blocked and self-doubts or harsh self-judg­ments are bring­ing us down. In such unpleas­ant peri­ods, we usu­al­ly try hard not to feel our anx­i­eties, our fear of fail­ure, our fear of being seen or all of the anger we have stored up about the seem­ing­ly unlov­ing world. How awful! Is this real­ly who we are? Cer­tain­ly not. The truth is: You are as beau­ti­ful as the flow­ers in the pic­ture in this blog!

Essence – our True Self

When we allow our life force to flow freely, we nat­u­ral­ly flour­ish like flow­ers. Joy and love for life move through our veins  —  like young dol­phins through the oceans. We feel con­fi­dent and open to the world and oth­ers. We feel ‘okay‘ – just the way we are. I believe this is our nat­ur­al state. There is noth­ing we need to strive or fight for. When some­one allows their life force to flow, we feel at ease with them. It feels pleas­ant and invig­o­rat­ing to be in their com­pa­ny.

For cen­turies, many wise philoso­phers have tried to describe Essence and find words for who we tru­ly are. Essence is our Core. Aris­to­tle was among the first to write about our ‘Essence‘ – he called it ‘to ti ên einai‘, an ancient Greek expres­sion mean­ing ‘what it is to be‘.  The most com­pre­hen­sive explo­rations and descrip­tions of the nature of real­i­ty – and of our our­selves – are found in Bud­dhist tra­di­tions.

Even if var­i­ous Bud­dhist schools found var­i­ous answers to the eter­nal ques­tion: “Who are we? Who is the I“?, they all per­ceive a rel­a­tive and ulti­mate real­i­ty: our rel­a­tive self, which is bound to our every­day per­son­al­i­ty or iden­ti­ty, and our deep­er, big­ger or ulti­mate Self – a Self that can­not eas­i­ly be described in words.

Beauty, Eros and Love shine from inside

We all know this from very direct and prac­ti­cal expe­ri­ence: Sim­ply look at lit­tle chil­dren. When they smile, the pure radi­ance of their true being shines through their eyes like the sun on a beau­ti­ful spring day. You car­ry the same radi­ance and the same beau­ty inside you, since the very first day of your life.

Beau­ty – as well as eros and love – emerge from inside when we are con­nect­ed to our Essence. When we allow it to move freely through us, it feels like beau­ti­ful streams of warm flow­ing water.

Why then do we not sim­ply  live this deep­er Self all the time?

We could choose to do so from moment to moment. Yet many times, based on mis­tak­en ideas about our­selves, our fears, anx­i­eties or self-judg­ments, we don’t dare to shine freely. We hide who we are and think we need to live up to oth­ers‘ expec­ta­tions to be loved. What a painful belief – which in addi­tion usu­al­ly makes our bod­ies con­tract or ache.

“In feite kun­nen we zelfs zien dat er sek­suele dis­func­ties erectiemedicijnen.com
kun­nen zijn, in die zin dat.

We usu­al­ly don’t even know what oth­ers are expect­ing.  We are ulti­mate­ly striv­ing to live up to our own inner pic­ture of an ide­al­ized, yet unre­al­is­tic self and we miss the chance to con­nect with oth­ers from our Essence.
But this is not an inevitable fate . We shouldn‘t be depressed about who we are. We can re-learn to dis­solve our inner lim­i­ta­tions, we can anchor our­selves in our true nature and live and cre­ate our lives from there. And it works: I wit­ness it in my ses­sions with clients dai­ly and with tremen­dous joy.

I help you dissolve blocks

I glad­ly help you unblock your life force and find your nat­ur­al joy­ful flow and aware­ness again – in your beau­ti­ful heart, in your beau­ti­ful body, mind & spir­it. You will enjoy feel­ing at one with your­self again.

Food for Thought

 

Nina Koren is a train­er,
coun­sel­lor and author
in the field of trans­for­ma­tion.
She pro­vides in-depth
guid­ance for indi­vid­u­als,
teams and lead­ers.

© Nina Koren 2019