How to change unhealthy limiting patterns and live from your Essence.
“I get into the same problem over and over again.“ Yes, let’s face it! By avoiding confronting our struggles we keep ourselves exactly in the sh…
My friend Ines is a wonderful woman and a great naturopath. She does astonishing things: Ines analyzes her clients‘ stools. To some, this might sound a bit unusual or even repellent. Yet the poop does give her valuable information about the client’s health challenges.
I also like looking at shit professionally — in a psycho-spiritual sense. “I get into the same problem over and over again”: When you hear yourself saying this, or when you just observe it arising in your mind, it tells you one thing for sure: It is time to look at your shit!
The “wrong partner“
Let’s face it: “I always end up dating a partner who cheats on me“- “My relationship feels stale and boring, and nothing seems to change“- “I hate my body, but I am used to it“ -“I will never have a happy relationship“-“I keep eating compulsively, yet that’s just how I am“- “My panic attacks are torturing me, but what can I do?“- “Yes, my boss is aggressive and my gastritis is annoying“ – “Yes, I would love to work in a creative field – but I can’t get myself moving to get there“.
These are some examples of what I have heard from people before they started looking at their problems – with the intention of changing things and creating fulfilling alternatives. It is unbelievable how long human beings sometimes stay in painful situations.
Why would it make sense to look at the not so ‘sweet ‑smelling‘ parts of our existence?
Yes – some things in life cannot be changed, and this may need a true and sometimes hard grieving process. But many times we refrain from dissolving our problems simply because we lack trust in ourselves or others. Or we follow negative beliefs, which limit us. “I do not deserve“… is one of these self-sabotaging thoughts.
Self-Doubts and Self-Judgments
“I am not good enough“…. is another one. At the same time, studies show the huge coping potential human beings possess. It is ALWAYS worth giving it a try – sometimes with the help of a friend or a professional counsellor.
Food for Thought
- What are your “I always end up“ … thoughts?
- What difficulties are you avoiding looking at, in order to find relief and solutions?
- What is the sweet secret dream in your heart, which you tend to ignore or postpone? What do you long for in your life?
If you are interested, you can also find some quick information about poop analysis here. Enjoy your exploration!
Nina Koren is a trainer,
counsellor and author
in the field of transformation.
She provides in-depth
guidance for individuals,
teams and leaders.
© Nina Koren 2019
Is it time to look at your shit? :)